My wife and I were not prepared for the aftermath of a decision we made in 1992 prior to being married. We had an abortion and now we were unable to forgive ourselves. The remorse and guilt weighed heavy on us, but we were too ashamed to tell anyone so we struggled silently and alone for the past thirteen years. Then last winter we learned of a post-abortion conference that was focused on helping people just like us. So we called Abba Pregnancy Care Center to get more information. The individuals there with whom we spoke answered our questions and were friendly, helpful, and professional. We wanted to go to the conference, but at the same time we were scared. We questioned whether they could really help us and if they would truly understand us. What if we went and saw someone that knew us? After all, we are Christians and active in the local church. Finally, just a few days before the conference, we decided that we would attend. The burden we were carrying was just too much to continue to bear when we had someone waiting to help us. More importantly, we felt a strong sense that God wanted us to go. At the conference, we were welcomed with love and care. The folks from Abba were sensitive, compassionate, and genuine. The speakers and facilitators spoke about the very issues with which we were struggling and we heard from some who had lived through the same things we had. They shared in our experience and pain. We realized we were not alone. They did understand and they offered us help without condemnation. The things we learned and heard enabled us to receive the forgiveness and healing from God that has been available to us all these years. We were then able to forgive ourselves. We still have regrets about the past but we no longer have to live in the past. We have experienced God's grace and mercy, and His love has allowed us to move forward in new found freedom. This healing has also brought new joy and peace to our relationship with each other.

This all started with a bad decision many years ago. Now, it was also a decision that led us toward the first step of healing. Although initially it was a hard step to take, my wife and I agree that the decision to go to the post-abortion conference is one of the best we have ever made.

Thanks, Abba, for caring for those who hurt!

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